The biggest lesson I learned was that, as Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz realized, "everything I ever wanted was always right here, in my own backyard". Except not.
In my 20/20, I realized that my favorite times during this vacation in France were the times spent with the Bolger/LaPlants at the Fayot Farm. The meals typically began preparation a 3-4 hours in advance of dinner time.
Preparations involved noon-time trips to local market days, quick jaunts to the Super U, wandering through the farm's apple-walnut-quince orchard, wondering how the hell anyone ever wrung the neck of a turtledove and served it for dinner (about 5 were in residence, bred specifically for the purpose of imminent death by home-cooked meal), scaring the sheep, feeding vegetable scraps to goats, chickens and a turkey, choosing cheese and drinking wine.
Best food discovery: Merguez sausage (at home, the rude equivalent is mildly spicy fresh Hungarian sausage). Delightful grilled, on a baguette with only its own moderate oils as a sauce, salted frites and crisply chilled Stella Artois.
Best invention: ripe market tomatoes, cored and stuffed with a blend of merguez sausage, cornichon, onion, some whole grain flour or cornmeal. Roast at moderately high temperature for about 30-40 minutes. Topped with parmesan, romano, or other dry shredded cheese.
Best failed attempt: an almost steak-like cut of meat, placed on top of a bed of salt, thinly sliced garlic layered lightly on top, roasted at high heat for 18 minutes. Would have been perfect, but I left it in the oven for 30 minutes. I blame the wine.
Best meal: 2 fresh sea bass buried and crusted in a bed of coarse sea salt, roasted whole for about 40 minutes. Gut cavities had been cleaned, and were stuffed with fresh rosemary branches. When done, we cracked the salt crust and carefully removed the fish to a serving platter, skin still intact.
The skin peeled effortlessly away, as did most of the bones. The flesh was delicate yet substantial, and sublimely infused with a misty rosemary and sea salt flavor.
We had some other things for dinner too, but I can't remember what they were - the sea bass eclipsed everything. Some white wine, I think.
Upon return to the US, I reflected that all I had to do was get fresh, seasonal ingredients and prepare them in ways that highlighted their natural goodness. That seems to be the essence of good French cooking.
So I went to the local West Allis farmer's market. Indeed, the produce in most instances was excellent! And for two weekends now, I've returned to that happy place of cooking recalled on the farm in France. It seems after all, that the secret was really the blend of all that mattered. The shopping, the chopping, the wine consumption, the family, disjointed conversations in between disciplining children, selected naughty humor when the children weren't watching -- taking the time to do it properly, even if it was really all just one big experiment.
Unfortunately, I'll probably revert to coffee in a paper cup and take-away food in plastic containers eaten over paperwork soon enough.
We struggle on, in hope.